04 Jun 2012

love the sinner…?

If you’ve been a Christ-follower in America for any length of time, you can probably finish this expression.  For readers who might be international, I’ll finish it here: …hate the sin. On the surface, this seems like an okay sentiment – after all, we’re supposed to love people like Jesus does.  But somewhere along the […]

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11 May 2011

This is Where It’s About Me

Most of the time, I recognize that my husband’s struggle with SGA isn’t about me.  I’ve said it a thousand times if I’ve said it once:  it feels like it’s about me, but that’s just because it impacts me.  I didn’t make him struggle and he struggled long before I met him and came in […]

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17 Apr 2011

On Being an Armour-Bearer

I commented a few days ago to a group of strugglers and their spouses that those of us who are spouses are “armour bearers” and affirmed how deeply this journey with our spouses affects us.  Like most of us photo © 2007 Myrrien | more info (via: Wylio)married to strugglers, my friend has noticed how […]

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08 Apr 2011

Brokenness

photo © 2006 David Goehring | more info (via: Wylio)The tagline on the blog used to read “one wife’s journey through her husband’s sexual addiction to wholeness and healing.”   I changed that this morning to read “one wife’s journey through her husband’s sexual brokenness to wholeness and healing.” Why the change? I think “sexual […]

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05 Apr 2011

Believing in Your Spouse

photo © 2010 Marlon Cureg | more info (via: Wylio) Most of us who are married to people with SGA who fight against that unwanted inclination are deep believers. We believe in our spouses and we often believe in the power of God to make changes. If we didn’t, we wouldn’t be here – we’d […]

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16 Jul 2010

Forgiveness – full & true?

We are settling in to our new location and decorating our apartment.  It’s been a solid 15 yrs since I’ve lived in an apartment – there are definitely things I like (not having to do the maintenance ourselves) and things I’m not so crazy about (hearing the dog upstairs run around like a maniac at […]

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28 Jan 2010

More on Gayle Haggard

I read on Charisma’s website that Gayle Haggard has a new book out.   Why I Stayed: The Choices I Made In My Darkest Hour is definitely on my “to read” list, but what is fascinating to me is how many people either have judged or will judge her without understanding her story.  They lack […]

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15 Jun 2009

the little foxes

We have a family of foxes living in our backyard. Yep, it’s like Animal Planet over here – rabbits, chipmunks, squirrels, a groundhog, deer, and now a mama fox & 4 kits. It’s cool to watch, no question – but it’s also brought a bit more clarity to the Scriptural idea of “little foxes spoiling […]

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18 Jul 2008

bumps in the road

When dealing with sexual addiction, bumps in the road are bound to come along. So is a certain amount of “backsliding,” or as addiction terminology puts it, “falling off the wagon.” Interestingly enough, many sexual addicts use the term “sober” in regards to how long they’ve been away from their addiction, be it porn, acting […]

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16 Jul 2008

did you cause his sexual addiction?

I know the title of this post is provocative. There are some who would say that a woman can indeed influence and/or “cause” her husband’s sexual addiction. In most situations, I am not one of those people. The media-at-large would have us think that if we’re not 25 with perky breasts, no hips, and a […]

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