21 Jan 2013

It’s That Time Again…

Every January, at least for the past few years, we register for CrossPower Ministry’s Marriage & Mentor’s Conference.  It’s a time of transparency, marriage-building, communication, and fun with people all over the country.  We were scared spitless the first year we went, but in subsequent years, we’ve been delighted in the relationships we’ve built, the […]

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11 May 2011

This is Where It’s About Me

Most of the time, I recognize that my husband’s struggle with SGA isn’t about me.  I’ve said it a thousand times if I’ve said it once:  it feels like it’s about me, but that’s just because it impacts me.  I didn’t make him struggle and he struggled long before I met him and came in […]

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08 Apr 2011

Brokenness

photo © 2006 David Goehring | more info (via: Wylio)The tagline on the blog used to read “one wife’s journey through her husband’s sexual addiction to wholeness and healing.”   I changed that this morning to read “one wife’s journey through her husband’s sexual brokenness to wholeness and healing.” Why the change? I think “sexual […]

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05 Apr 2011

Believing in Your Spouse

photo © 2010 Marlon Cureg | more info (via: Wylio) Most of us who are married to people with SGA who fight against that unwanted inclination are deep believers. We believe in our spouses and we often believe in the power of God to make changes. If we didn’t, we wouldn’t be here – we’d […]

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04 Mar 2010

Nervous, but Anticipating

One of the blogs in my RSS reader is “Signs of a Struggle,” where Thom relates his challenges with SGA.  I appreciate Thom’s writing and his candor about his struggle.  A while ago, he wrote about a church in Midland, Texas called Stonegate Fellowship and their Cross Power Ministries Marriage Conference.  This Southern Baptist church […]

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28 Jan 2010

More on Gayle Haggard

I read on Charisma’s website that Gayle Haggard has a new book out.   Why I Stayed: The Choices I Made In My Darkest Hour is definitely on my “to read” list, but what is fascinating to me is how many people either have judged or will judge her without understanding her story.  They lack […]

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16 Oct 2008

hiccups & ball gowns

Every path to healing through addiction (no matter what type of addiction) will have divots in the road, or hiccups where the addict stumbles. Sexual addiction is no different from that. And yet, somehow I had this faulty idea that once we began down the path to healing that it would be rainbows & butterflies. […]

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02 Sep 2008

self confidence revisited

As part of my healing process, God has released me from truly caring what others might think of me or how they might prejudge me. I’m incredibly thankful for this, but considering how long I truly did care (read: fear) about others’ opinions and what emotional infidelity and sexual addiction do to the non-offending spouse, […]

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18 Jun 2008

how it all began

As I continue to write, you’ll learn bits and pieces of my story and my husband’s story — what writers call ‘backstory’ and fills in details a little more coherently. But that’s not for now. Now is the chance to tell you how this leg of the journey began and how we know it’s different […]

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