11 May 2011

This is Where It’s About Me

Most of the time, I recognize that my husband’s struggle with SGA isn’t about me.  I’ve said it a thousand times if I’ve said it once:  it feels like it’s about me, but that’s just because it impacts me.  I didn’t make him struggle and he struggled long before I met him and came in […]

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08 Apr 2011


photo © 2006 David Goehring | more info (via: Wylio)The tagline on the blog used to read “one wife’s journey through her husband’s sexual addiction to wholeness and healing.”   I changed that this morning to read “one wife’s journey through her husband’s sexual brokenness to wholeness and healing.” Why the change? I think “sexual […]

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05 Apr 2011

Believing in Your Spouse

photo © 2010 Marlon Cureg | more info (via: Wylio) Most of us who are married to people with SGA who fight against that unwanted inclination are deep believers. We believe in our spouses and we often believe in the power of God to make changes. If we didn’t, we wouldn’t be here – we’d […]

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04 Apr 2011


We’re back from Midland and the Marriage & Mentors Conference … what a wild weekend!  It was such a relief to be in a place where it was ‘safe’ to be ourselves and know that we were all there to support each other and learn.  I had been thinking about and praying for some people […]

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08 Nov 2009

If You Love Someone….

Sting wrote the song “If You Love Someone (Set Them Free)” in 1985 in response to the popularity of the previous Police hit “Every Breath You Take,” which was not a love story as the public took it, but the story of a stalker watching and obsessing over his prey.  He was chagrined at how […]

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18 Jul 2009

Ted & Gayle Haggard

So apparently, the Haggards have been in the media lately – they did a documentary with a pay-per-view cable company, were on “Oprah,” and have been written up in various magazines, newspapers, and the rest. I’m relatively unplugged from the mainstream media, but one thing that I do read with semi-regularity is Charisma magazine, and […]

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20 May 2009


Of all the things on this journey that I didn’t expect, it has been the depth of sheer anger and rage I have at a man who has been dead nearly 20 years.  I am a natural redhead and have borne jokes through the years about my supposed anger.  The truth is that I’m really […]

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14 Apr 2009

deep in the dark recesses of the past

I mentioned in my last post that my husband was starting to get to the bottom of his addictive issues and the known abuse in his past. That happened in a huge way in the last week. It’s weird enough-sounding that although it’s a major breakthrough, I’ve not quite known how to write about it. […]

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29 Nov 2008

reasons for thanksgiving

This is Thanksgiving weekend in the US, and as we found reasons to count our blessings, I came across a few that won’t fit in the traditional (upcoming) Christmas letter.  😉   I’m not really sure how one goes about informing and updating those who receive your Christmas notes and cards that you’ve a) had […]

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09 Nov 2008

Growth in to Manhood, Chapter 1

Alan Medinger is the founder of Regeneration, an “ex-gay” ministry in Baltimore, MD. His story is compelling and can be found here. He has a solid 25 years of healing experience and full-on knowledge of what God can and will do for those who struggle with same-gendered attraction — if they want to pursue the […]

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