19 Dec 2008

Why is porn use so shameful?

Once again I find myself pondering deep questions and concepts and this seems to be a good place to hash some of this out.  So bear with me, if you will. In a discussion pertaining to pornography use and the shamefulness we see in those who partake and who are addicted, someone suggested that it’s […]

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08 Sep 2008

sexual addiction in the news

The news recently came about that David Duchovny (of “The X-Files” fame) admitted himself to a treatment facility. Ordinarily, this news is met with a bit of “Hmm… what is it this time? Drugs? Alcohol?”-type response from the public. Then it gets hushed. “Ooh. Sex addiction. Wow.” Duchovny admitted that he is battling sexual addiction […]

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16 Jul 2008

did you cause his sexual addiction?

I know the title of this post is provocative. There are some who would say that a woman can indeed influence and/or “cause” her husband’s sexual addiction. In most situations, I am not one of those people. The media-at-large would have us think that if we’re not 25 with perky breasts, no hips, and a […]

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14 Jul 2008

The Second Thorn

As I mentioned in a previous post, God showed me that there were “thorns” in my heart that were symbolic of things that were done or said to me that I had neglected to deal with adequately at a previous time. These things had grown in to symbolic thorns that caused me continual pain and […]

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25 Jun 2008

it’s just pictures…right?

Pornography is officially defined as “obscene writings, drawings, photographs, or the like, esp. those having little or no artistic merit.” The American Heritage Dictionary adds a bit to the definition, stating it is: “Sexually explicit pictures, writing, or other material whose primary purpose is to cause sexual arousal.” Even the US Supreme Court has weighed […]

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23 Jun 2008

a scary admission

One night while my husband was IM’g a mentor-friend of his and I was on a different level of the house, reading, he came up and wanted to talk. It was still a time of new habits and newly-opened lines of communication, and so I made myself put the book down and focus on him. […]

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18 Jun 2008

how it all began

As I continue to write, you’ll learn bits and pieces of my story and my husband’s story — what writers call ‘backstory’ and fills in details a little more coherently. But that’s not for now. Now is the chance to tell you how this leg of the journey began and how we know it’s different […]

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