one wife's journey through her husband's sexual brokenness to wholeness and healing
After posting about soul-nakedness last week, I realized that some might desire this closeness but not know where to start in order to achieve it. Short of telling someone to “pray your guts out,” I was stumped. So I decided to compile some ideas; some of these things we have done intentionally, others we have [...]
The news recently came about that David Duchovny (of “The X-Files” fame) admitted himself to a treatment facility. Ordinarily, this news is met with a bit of “Hmm… what is it this time? Drugs? Alcohol?”-type response from the public. Then it gets hushed. “Ooh. Sex addiction. Wow.” Duchovny admitted that he is battling sexual addiction [...]
Some days after our return from vacation and to a semi-normalized existence, I was reading this post at Sensuous Wife’s blog. Sensuous Wife’s story is amazing and I found myself re-reading her testimony of survival several times during that day. I never made it through once without crying, and I realized shortly after my husband [...]
As an avowed Sting-fan and a general music-geek, I find great significance in song lyrics. Recently, as I considered past patterns of self-protection that I had engaged in, the song “Fortress Around Your Heart” came leaping to mind. Under the ruins of a walled city Crumbling towers in beams of yellow light No flags of [...]
Part of the reason sex between husband and wife is so enjoyable (or at least, should be so enjoyable) is because God designed our souls and spirits to unite as *one* during the intimacy we share. The original Hebrew suggests that when a husband and wife are intimate and their souls unite in this unique [...]
One night while my husband was IM’g a mentor-friend of his and I was on a different level of the house, reading, he came up and wanted to talk. It was still a time of new habits and newly-opened lines of communication, and so I made myself put the book down and focus on him. [...]
SSA is the abbreviation for Same Sex Attraction and is commonly referred to in the world of counseling and gender-assignment studies as a condition where an individual might have a same-gendered proclivity, but not officially designate themselves as “gay” or “lesbian.” Most often, these individuals live a heterosexual lifestyle and consider themselves “straight,” but struggle [...]
As I continue to write, you’ll learn bits and pieces of my story and my husband’s story — what writers call ‘backstory’ and fills in details a little more coherently. But that’s not for now. Now is the chance to tell you how this leg of the journey began and how we know it’s different [...]
This blog is the story of healing. A hard journey through sexual addiction, same-sex attraction (SSA), and the long road back to healthy intimacy and trust. It’s one woman’s story of pain, assault, betrayal, renewal, healing, and life. It’s God’s story of redemption, renewal, and wholeness. It’s raw, real, and transparent. It will contain real [...]
