17 Apr 2011

On Being an Armour-Bearer

I commented a few days ago to a group of strugglers and their spouses that those of us who are spouses are “armour bearers” and affirmed how deeply this journey with our spouses affects us.  Like most of us photo © 2007 Myrrien | more info (via: Wylio)married to strugglers, my friend has noticed how […]

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12 Apr 2011

Follow-up to Femininity

photo © 2008 Mike Melrose | more info (via: Wylio)A while ago, I wrote about how I’ve become confident and comfortable in my femininity.  It’s taken me a while to realize why this change took place, but I had a flash of insight at the CPM conference. I commented that once my husband started to […]

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08 Apr 2011

Brokenness

photo © 2006 David Goehring | more info (via: Wylio)The tagline on the blog used to read “one wife’s journey through her husband’s sexual addiction to wholeness and healing.”   I changed that this morning to read “one wife’s journey through her husband’s sexual brokenness to wholeness and healing.” Why the change? I think “sexual […]

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18 Jun 2010

the ultimate removal of the masks

I have been insanely busy lately – my apologies for not writing for the past 6+ weeks.  We are preparing to move across country and needless to say, my time is more than well-spoken for right now.  This is the last day before the moving truck arrives and as I look around the house, I […]

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08 Nov 2009

If You Love Someone….

Sting wrote the song “If You Love Someone (Set Them Free)” in 1985 in response to the popularity of the previous Police hit “Every Breath You Take,” which was not a love story as the public took it, but the story of a stalker watching and obsessing over his prey.  He was chagrined at how […]

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06 Sep 2009

Ch-ch-ch-changes

Ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes Turn and face the strange (Ch-ch-Changes) Don’t want to be a richer man Ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes Turn and face the strange (Ch-ch-Changes) Just gonna have to be a different man Time may change me But I can’t trace time David Bowie’s song “Changes” from the “changesONEbowie” album of 1984 seems to explain much of our lives […]

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18 Jul 2009

Ted & Gayle Haggard

So apparently, the Haggards have been in the media lately – they did a documentary with a pay-per-view cable company, were on “Oprah,” and have been written up in various magazines, newspapers, and the rest. I’m relatively unplugged from the mainstream media, but one thing that I do read with semi-regularity is Charisma magazine, and […]

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20 May 2009

rage

Of all the things on this journey that I didn’t expect, it has been the depth of sheer anger and rage I have at a man who has been dead nearly 20 years.  I am a natural redhead and have borne jokes through the years about my supposed anger.  The truth is that I’m really […]

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16 May 2009

The Root of Passivity

I’ve had a post in my “work in progress folder” that deals with passivity.  There’s been something that has niggled at my brain for a while now in regards to passivity and men – and I think I finally put the pieces together.  I’m not confident enough to say it’s something that will stand all […]

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04 May 2009

Finding a New Normal

My husband and I had our first Theophostic meeting last week and I’ve pondered how to describe it and write about it for a full week now.  I’m really glad we went and we’ll be going back next week.  God completely showed up and met us there – and let’s face it:  He didn’t have […]

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