18 Oct 2008

no white flags

Dido sings a song called “White Flag” that speaks to what I’m feeling right now: I know you think that I shouldn’t still love you, Or tell you that. But if I didn’t say it, well I’d still have felt it Where’s the sense in that? I promise I’m not trying to make your life […]

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11 Sep 2008

soul-nakedness, part deux

After posting about soul-nakedness last week, I realized that some might desire this closeness but not know where to start in order to achieve it. Short of telling someone to “pray your guts out,” I was stumped. So I decided to compile some ideas; some of these things we have done intentionally, others we have […]

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08 Sep 2008

sexual addiction in the news

The news recently came about that David Duchovny (of “The X-Files” fame) admitted himself to a treatment facility. Ordinarily, this news is met with a bit of “Hmm… what is it this time? Drugs? Alcohol?”-type response from the public. Then it gets hushed. “Ooh. Sex addiction. Wow.” Duchovny admitted that he is battling sexual addiction […]

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02 Sep 2008

self confidence revisited

As part of my healing process, God has released me from truly caring what others might think of me or how they might prejudge me. I’m incredibly thankful for this, but considering how long I truly did care (read: fear) about others’ opinions and what emotional infidelity and sexual addiction do to the non-offending spouse, […]

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29 Jul 2008

The Sixth Thorn

As I mentioned in a previous post, God showed me that there were “thorns” in my heart that were symbolic of things that were done or said to me that I had neglected to deal with adequately at a previous time. These things had grown in to symbolic thorns that caused me continual pain and […]

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24 Jul 2008

The Fifth Thorn

As I mentioned in a previous post, God showed me that there were “thorns” in my heart that were symbolic of things that were done or said to me that I had neglected to deal with adequately at a previous time. These things had grown in to symbolic thorns that caused me continual pain and […]

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23 Jul 2008

outing ourselves

We took the dive and met with one of the pastors at our church. My husband and I are done hiding. Period. End of discussion. This is who we are — people in whom God is doing an amazing work, and our spotted pasts and histories of abuse notwithstanding, we are walking it out and […]

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18 Jul 2008

bumps in the road

When dealing with sexual addiction, bumps in the road are bound to come along. So is a certain amount of “backsliding,” or as addiction terminology puts it, “falling off the wagon.” Interestingly enough, many sexual addicts use the term “sober” in regards to how long they’ve been away from their addiction, be it porn, acting […]

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16 Jul 2008

did you cause his sexual addiction?

I know the title of this post is provocative. There are some who would say that a woman can indeed influence and/or “cause” her husband’s sexual addiction. In most situations, I am not one of those people. The media-at-large would have us think that if we’re not 25 with perky breasts, no hips, and a […]

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14 Jul 2008

The Second Thorn

As I mentioned in a previous post, God showed me that there were “thorns” in my heart that were symbolic of things that were done or said to me that I had neglected to deal with adequately at a previous time. These things had grown in to symbolic thorns that caused me continual pain and […]

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